Where we’ve been since 2018

It’s been a while and there’s been a lot happening behind the scenes! A lot of healing and growth has taken place, and it took us a good while to recover from surgeries to release our burn scars. We’ll focus on the positive in this post.

  • We are no longer on opiates for our chronic pain!
  • We were ready to cope with our DID diagnosis and have learned a lot about our system. So much makes sense now! We now use plural pronouns (they/them) and call our system the Honeycomb. We are also still Rosemerry. 😊
The Honeycomb’s system logo. Art by Ryn.
Our system logo, by the amazing Ryn!
  • Speaking of diagnoses, finding out we have EDS hypermobility type and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome has been life-changing in the best way! Now that we finally know what the heck is going on with our body, we’re getting the right treatment and it’s making a huge difference!
  • We’ve been leading a DID Amino, started modding for our friend AdventuRyn on Twitch, dipped our toes back into writing, and been more social!

While we plan to be more active again, we are still prioritizing self care and likely have another surgery coming up soon, so our official blogging schedule for now is whenever the fuck we feel like it. 😎

Happy Holidays!

The Shortest Day
by Susan Cooper

And so the Shortest Day came and the year died
And everywhere down the centuries of the snow-white world
Came people singing, dancing,
To drive the dark away.
They lighted candles in the winter trees;
They hung their homes with evergreen;
They burned beseeching fires all night long
To keep the year alive.
And when the new year’s sunshine blazed awake
They shouted, revelling.
Through all the frosty ages you can hear them
Echoing behind us – listen!
All the long echoes, sing the same delight,
This Shortest Day,
As promise wakens in the sleeping land:
They carol, feast, give thanks,
And dearly love their friends,
And hope for peace.
And now so do we, here, now,
This year and every year.
Welcome, Yule!
(Audience responds: Welcome, Yule!)

Okay, so I missed posting this on the solstice, proper. The sentiment remains true. Susan Cooper (yes, the author of The Dark is Rising series!) wrote this poem especially for the Christmas Revels, a holiday treat celebrated in cities around the US that features traditions from a different country each year. “The Shortest Day” is one of the elements that is part of every production.

As the light returns,
May you gather it to you
With joy.

Happy holidays to you and yours!

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Framed!

I’m so excited! My wizard cross stitch is finally back from Aaron Brothers and looks beautiful framed. The mat really makes it pop! I couldn’t resist sharing the result. The framers were unable to use stretcher bars on this piece because there wasn’t enough fabric around the edge. Instead, they wound up stretching it by hand and stapling it to the foamcore backing. You may wish to keep this in mind when considering Dimensions brand kits.

WIP Wednesday

It’s been a joy to work with all these colors! It’s amazing to watch them seem to change depending on where they’re placed. For example, in that bit in the upper right corner that looks like a caparisoned elephant, there are two shades of brown, but they look purple!

The colors are a lot brighter in person. 🙂

The more I use the Floss-A-Way organization system, the more I love it. I don’t think I’ll use anything else now. I’d certainly have a big, tangled mess if I was using my previous system! The only problem I’ve found is that sometimes I think I’ve closed the ziplock baggies when I haven’t. With a little care, problem solved.

The Traveling Cross-Stitch Problem

You may know that knitting requires higher mathematics. Did you know that counted cross stitch also uses high-level math?

img_5644-e1511575594923.jpgI contemplated this when I noticed a familiar formula appear in my current project. Check out the white space in the photo to the right. To me it looks like 2Πr, the formula for deriving a circle’s circumference from its radius.

In counted cross stitch, needleworkers are constantly solving the Traveling Salesman Problem (TSP). The TSP is important to many industries that depend on logistics and performing complex routing, such as shipping, computer chip manufacturing, and even DNA sequencing. This problem asks, “Given a list of cities and the distances between each pair of cities, what is the shortest possible route that visits each city exactly once and returns to the origin city?” In cross stitch terms, “Given a chart with the location of stitches in color x and the distances between each pair of stitches, what is the most efficient route that uses the least amount of thread?”

This is an NP-hard problem, which means it’s rather difficult. And yet stitchers constantly solve it as they stitch, deciding how to use their thread most efficiently. Doesn’t that make you feel awesome, fellow crafters? 😎

I’ve completed 1/30th of my current project and am moving on to page 2 of the chart! It’s a bit dismaying to see how small it is on 25-count fabric, but I’ll keep trucking. Here’s a pic: IMG_5673

It looks more like a rectangle in real life. 🙂

Bday 💖, Walkin’ in the Rain, and Musings on Needlework and Writing

Today’s post is a bit of a mixed bag. 🙂

🎁First, a very happy birthday to my bestie and science editor, Mad Doktor Matt! Many happy returns! 🎂 Matt has helped me brainstorm the biology of my supernatural beings over many lengthy conversations. He helps me stay true to the science and decide when to depart from (known) reality. He’s also a fantastic first reader and support! Much love to you, my friend!

Today I took a walk in the rain. In yesterday’s Japanese post I mentioned my pain doc gave me some good advice. As it gets darker, I start getting the urge to hibernate. He said I could combat my sleepiness with daily walks. The mornings are best because there’s more light.

I like to hunt Pokémon as I walk. I had a lucky day, snapping up a Bellsprout and a Mareep. I stopped at a nearby church to take over the gym and I noticed how beautiful this flower looked in the rain.

The glam-shot quality comes from the sandwich bag I used to keep the rain off my iPhone. Anyone know what kind of flower this is?

I also wanted to share that I’ve started my next cross stitch project. This one will be a wedding gift for my friend and Matt’s sister, Julie. Julie is a phlebotomist and has given me lots of details about blood and how the collection system works. These are vital details for any vampire-centric novel, in my opinion.

I’m keeping the painting I’m stitching a surprise. I can tell you that it’s a max color chart by Heaven and Earth Designs, which means it contains over 200 colors!

I’m trying the Floss-A-Way organization system this time and I really like it. The system consists of rings like those in a binder and small ziplock bags with a hole in one corner. I cut up the list of symbols and DMC floss numbers. Then I taped one on each bag. This makes it really easy to flip through and find the color I’m looking for. I can also keep lengths of thread neatly tucked away with their skeins. Really helpful for such a large project!

This is my first time stitching on 25-count linen (which means there are 25 stitches per inch). So tiny! Most of the design will be very colorful, but the corner I’m starting with is dark. There are four colors of thread in this picture. Can you find them all?

Challenging, right? As I was stitching today I thought how much it’s like writing a novel. Small, consistent additions add up over time and what starts out amorphous and murky turns into a beautiful whole.

Wizard Cross Stitch Finished!

Abracadabra! I started this Dimensions cross stitch kit about seven years ago. It spent most of that time languishing in my closet until this summer. Once I finally started working on it in earnest, it went super fast. I think it took about five months to complete.

I love the dimension and texture the designer created by using halfstitch, couching, and blending colors. Every so often I’d fill in a couple of stitches and be amazed at how they made all the difference. This is a great example of how skillfully manipulated details in the right places make a project shine.

Looking at the chart, I was worried about how, um, phallic one of the candles looked. I was relieved when I actually stitched that section that it didn’t resemble a penis after all! It’s amazing how much color can change our perception.

I did make a few subtle changes. In some areas I miscounted, but I was able to fudge it so it looked great and I didn’t have to take out and redo a whole bunch. The wizard’s glasses were supposed to have a chain hanging down, but I think they’re cuter without. I also added gold to some of the dragon’s outlining to add a little more magic. Goes to show that even a minutely outlined project improves with a little creativity. This also reflects my “pantser”/“Make it Work” work style. 🙂

I’m really proud of myself for finishing! I also learned a new skill completing this project: couching! Despite the fiddly gold threads, I think I did a good job.

Behold!

Rosemerry Writes Wins Liebster Award!

Liebster Award

🎉Wow, Rosemerry Writes won the Liebster Award!🎉 The Liebster Award’s purpose is to recognize and promote great new blogs (defined as blogs with 200 or fewer followers). You can check out the rules here.

Thank you so much, Lebana, for nominating me!🤗 I enjoy Lebana’s haiku, but so far what I like best about her blog is its authentic voice. I was really inspired by her post “Negative Inspiration”. That took guts to write, and even more to post for all the world to read. She helped give me the courage to post my own truth. It also made me want to write about some of my own negative inspiration in a future post. Whereas Lebana discussed negative inspiration from her father’s abuse, I plan to discuss the negative inspiration I took from many of the teachers I had. Her recent tanka “True Love is Like Ghosts” made me think and I want to write about the connections her poem brought out in my mind. I admire Lebana’s positivity and faith in a loving God. Her Thoughtful Thursdays always show these qualities. I also admire her for posting regularly and always finding the perfect picture to accompany her writing. That’s no mean feat!

This response has several parts, so I’m separating them with lines for easy reading. Keep reading for some fun Q&A and my nominee list!


Lebana asked:

Q: Where do you live?

A: I live in the beautiful San Francisco Bay Area in California.

Q: What’s the best thing about the area where you live?

A: It’s hard to choose! I love the diverse mix of cultures. The high school I attended had students from over 200 countries, speaking over 50 different languages! As a result, I’m used to pale people being a minority and prefer it that way. We’re not perfect by any means, but I also love the tolerance that comes from such diversity. It’s wonderful to live in a creative and cultural mecca. I’ve had a lot of kooky “only in San Francisco” experiences; you never know what you’ll see around the next corner. There’s a lot of fuel here for a writer.

I love our geographic diversity as well. There are few other places on Earth you can experience the ocean, snowy mountains, redwood forests, wetlands, canyons, and more all within a few miles. Our foothills have a special place in my heart. In the spring they turn so green you feel like you’re in Ireland. Flat land with no hills in sight just feels wrong.

Q: Where is your favorite place in the world?

A: Hmm. I’m going to say the swimming pool. It’s my happy place.

Q: What’s your funniest travel story?

A: I went to Germany on exchange in high school with my best friend, Miles. My brother had previously gone on the same trip, so when we went to Hellbrunn, also known as Wasserspiele, we knew what was coming. “Wasserspiele” means “water play” and Hellbrunn is full of trick fountains and automatons that run on water. We kept it to ourselves so as not to spoil the surprise for the others, though. The tour guide showed our group an outdoor table that the bishop loved to have his guests eat at. It had just rained, so the rest of our group weren’t clued in by puddles in the area. One of our schoolmates, John, was invited to sit at the table along with some other tourists. Miles and I called to him to give us his backpack. John had his CD player and several collectable CDs in it that we knew he didn’t want getting soaked. Of course John didn’t understand why we wanted him to hand over his pack. “Trust us,” we told him. “You really want to give it to us right now.” John finally handed his backpack over. After the tour guide gave a brief spiel, he turned a hidden faucet. Suddenly water spurted up underneath the guests, soaking them! John was really glad he’d listened to us!

If you ever get a chance to visit Hellbrunn, it’s a stop you shouldn’t miss, both fun and memorable. Just wear stuff you don’t mind getting wet. 🙂

Q: What would you say is your biggest accomplishment?

A: I was severely burned during my sophomore year of college. Despite this interruption, I still served as my local sorority’s president and graduated in five years. Less than half of all students graduate within five years. Then I went on to complete my teacher training, though I was hanging on by the skin of my teeth by the end of the year. My health was worsening precipitously, but I still finished and received my dream job offer. It still hurts that I had to say no because my health had become so poor, but I’m very proud of myself.

Q: What makes you happiest?

A: The company of dogs.

Q: How many countries have you visited so far?

A: Three. Unless Texas counts. 😉 I’d like to visit Japan and a long list of other countries.

Q: Who is your role model?

A: Longfellow. He was also burned severely and from my research I believe he suffered from the same pain condition I do. Yet he wrote so beautifully.

Q: What can’t you live without?

A: Animals. Especially dogs.

Q: How many posts have you made so far?

hitchikers guide greenieA: Forty-two, not counting this one. (Wow! I amaze myself) Tip of the hat to my fellow Douglas Adams fans. 😀

Q: What is your message to new bloggers out there?

A: Keep on blogging! Stay true to yourself and blog to express your real point of view. Don’t chase the likes, but cherish them. Be social, but try not to let the social stuff overwhelm you. If you need to put limits on your blog for your own sake, that’s okay.


My Liebster Award Nominees:

Drumroll, please!

Drumroll, please!

  • Blind Injustice: This blog should be a major website. Brendan writes so thoughtfully and incisively about injustice and how we should address it.
  • Mind Matters: I only recently discovered this blog, but I feel Donna Marie’s voice needs amplifying in this time of pervasive malignant narcissism.
  • Queerly Texan: Alyssa is my sister in chronic illness and being LGBTQIA+ (sheesh! Could that acronym get much longer? We need a shorter term, y’all). Since a large portion of my relatives are Texan, I know it can’t be easy being either in Texas. Another very important voice with so much to say.
  • Tina’s Radical Rant: Tina is one of my oldest friends and the secret to our friendship is simple: Tina always speaks her mind. She’s an amazing social justice activist with a focus on LGBTQIA+ and socioeconomic issues.
  • Umm, I can’t find a fifth. Y’all are too popular! 😉

Congratulations! Should you accept, please feel free to take your time writing your acceptance post as I know there’s a lot to do! Find out how to accept here.

If I didn’t nominate you, please don’t feel left out. You’re probably too popular to meet the requirements! 😉 Please keep reading for more Q&A (I answer most of the questions I’m asking my nominees!), and don’t forget to check out the amazing nominees!


The following questions are for my nominees, but I don’t think it’s fair if I don’t answer them, too. So here goes!

1. How stoked are you? 😀

2. Why did you start blogging?

I’m pretty opinionated and I wanted to speak up about current issues. I also want to be published and know that having a “social media platform” is considered pretty important these days.

3. What keeps you blogging?

On bad days, it’s my public promise that I’d post on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. On good days it’s because I have something to say or that I want to share with my readers. I’m always coming up with ideas!

4. Which post has been the most difficult for you to write and/or publish so far? Why?

My #MeToo posts were the most difficult for me to write and publish so far. It was retraumatizing to write down all the ugly things that had happened and terrifying to publish since my experiences had taught me to expect more abuse for speaking out. But I thought it was very important to share my story and I’ve needed to for some time.

5. Have you published a post that was unexpectedly popular? Why didn’t you expect it to be popular, and why do you think it was?

My recent post “The End’s in Sight!” is my most popular post so far, much to my surprise! Since my blog nominally focuses on writing and my opinions, I just didn’t expect a post about my cross stitch project nearing completion to get the most likes. “Trump, King of Dulness” also surprised me. In this case, I didn’t expect a post connecting Alexander Pope’s sharp-tongued poetry to current politics. Both are good lessons in why not to chase the likes; you can never predict how readers will react!

6. What’s your theme song?

It varies, but “Houki Boshi” by Younha is often at the top of the list.

For a translation of the lyrics, click here. One of my favorite verses is, in English:

If perchance I could have become a comet
I would go flying through the sky
No matter what kind of tomorrow comes, this thought is strong
So my comet is unbreakable

7. Name a poet you enjoy (other than yourself 😉) and tell us why.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow is an amazing writer. He and I share health issues, and he has written some of my favorite poems. Researching him I learned that he was the first to translate The Divine Comedy into English. The Divine Comedy, along with many of his original poems, speak eloquently of my experiences. He wrote the poem that became one of my favorite Christmas carols, “I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day”:

Many sayings we have today, like “two ships passing in the night”, come from his poetry.

8. If you could have one superpower, what would you choose (heroic and villainous are both okay!)?

I know it’s a common one, but I’ve dreamed of flying so often, that would be my first choice.

9. If you were a character in a novel, how would you want to be described?

In sunlight oms hair was dark mauve with copper highlights. Not that om saw much sunlight. Oms pale skin was so translucent he thought he could trace oms entire circulatory system.

10. Who is the voice of your generation? Why?

The Smashing Pumpkins. They just really sum up my teen/college years.

11. You just found out dragons are real. What do you do next?

Prepare to be exceptionally polite. Or run. 😉


Not a nominee? (I still ❤ you! 🙂)Feel free to chime in and answer any of the questions above in the comments. 🙂

🐺🎃Happy Halloween!🕷👹

Happy Halloween, dear readers!

I had an encounter this evening that shows the power of a good storyteller. My parents don’t hand out candy. I think it’s a little bah humbug of them, but since it’s their house I play along. We keep the front of the house dark to discourage trick or treaters, but one or two always stop by anyway.

Tonight I opened the door to a maybe-twelve-year-old bride of Dracula. After she’d gushed over Panda Bear and said the traditional “trick or treat”, I said, “Goblins ate all our candy. Sorry.”

She gasped softly and her eyes went wide. “Really?” she whispered.

I nodded solemnly.

She left totally convinced my candy hoard had been wiped out by goblins. Point to the storyteller. 🎃

A gorgeous, orange, perfect Halloween sunset.

A gorgeous, orange, perfect Halloween sunset.

I took Panda for a walk this evening (before the above encounter) and was treated to a gorgeous orange sunset, perfect for Halloween Night. I’m so pleased I was able to capture it with the sun right in the pocket.

While we walked I played Pokémon Go. As I suspected, there are more creepy Pokémon out in honor of Halloween, even more than during the rest of the Halloween event. I was stoked to finally get enough candy to evolve my Onix into a Steelix, its special evolution. In fact, tonight was an evolution bonanza! I also caught two witch Pikachu and hatched two Cleffa, who are among my favorite Pokémon. Cleffa’s ears remind me of Princess Leia. 🙂

While I was hunting Pokémon, I checked out neighborhood decorations. This yard is one of my favorites this year:

My favorite neighborhood yard decorations this season.

My favorite neighborhood yard decorations this season.

I also spotted this cat pumpkin and instantly gave it my Most Creative Pumpkin Award (made up on the spot 😁):

Winner, Most Creative Pumpkin Award 2017.

Winner, Most Creative Pumpkin Award 2017.

I hope you all have a happy and safe All Hallows’ Eve! Enjoy this amazing fan music video combining The Lord of the Rings and “All Souls Night” by Loreena McKennitt.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IhuDlxK04dU

魔法使いクロスステッチプロジェクトはほとんど終わりです!

Edited according to corrections from my Lang-8 friends:

今週は投稿が遅くなりました。 クロスステッチプロジェクトに気をとられていたので。もう少しで終わるので、中断することはとても難しかったです!後バックステッチだけが残っています。私は、このプロジェクトを約7年前に始めました。もう少しで出来上がるので、とても幸せです!ドラゴンを召喚する浮遊キャンドルに囲まれた魔法使いの写真です。あなたは私のブログ、honeycombsbeehive.wordpress.com、で進行中のいくつかの写真を見ることができます。先週私が書いたカボチャパイの写真も見ることができます。完成したら私のプロジェクトの写真を掲載します。そして、私の親友ジュリーの結婚式のクロスステッチプロジェクトを始始めるつもりです。


I am late writing a post this week because I was distracted by my cross-stitch project. It is almost finished, so it has been very hard to stop! I only have the backstitching to do now. I started this project about seven years ago, so I’m very excited I’m almost done! It is a picture of a wizard surrounded by floating candles summoning a dragon. You can see some photos of it in progress on my blog, honeycombsbeehive.wordpress.com. You can also see a picture of the pumpkin pie I wrote about last week. I will post a picture of my project when it’s finished. Then I will start on a cross stitch project for my best friend Julie’s wedding.